fabulous and over 40

Yes you can be fabulous!

2009-06-21T17:33:00.003-07:00

Gosh darn- you can be sexy and fabulous at any age!

Mini Skirts

2009-06-21T14:45:00.000-07:00

Again, saying over 40 is a tad too broad-- excuse the pun!

Some over 40's can get away with a shorter skirt- black tights and high boots- not many but some!

Again, lots of the under 40's cant get away with it either- but they try!

So, shorter skirt- not just under the woo-hoo- and black tights- little flats--- and jut maybe you can pull it off.

Denim mini-micro- mini-- should we even have to have this discussion??

Plunge V necklines

2009-06-21T14:40:00.000-07:00

Yes, I somewhat agree on this- depends on the length of the V- the tone of the skin. If you have been hanging out with the housewives of Orange County or Donatella Verscace with the crepey necks and such- cover it up!

If you are in good shape, have good texture=== and if you have a little extra padding- actually a nice V- can highlight your best feature-- full breasts- and take away from the eyes looking at the fuller hips!

Goddess sakes here think of the Italian superstars--ahhh I cant remember their names- menopausal moment--- but I will add later!

If you are a skinny fart with sun damaged skin- no V's fuller figured with nice skin--- try a touch!

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Low Rise ass showing jeans!

2009-06-21T14:38:00.000-07:00

Again, these are soooo out! For anyage- of any weight!

Pass them on- to use as scraps--- not on your ass!

Cropped pants

2009-06-21T14:34:00.000-07:00

Actually- I am not a fan of these for any women- but I am old school and prefer classic clothes. Having said that capris- ala Audrey Hepburn- worn close to the ankles and narrower are very classic.....

So go ahead and wear these. It is actually one of the casual looks I like on women over 60!

Neon Colours

2009-06-21T14:30:00.000-07:00

Well, again the image does not match the comments.

Neon colours should never be worn by anyone over the age of 6! Unless they of course are 'artistic' youth--- or working on a construction crew, riding a bike at night or other safety issue endeavours!

However -bright colours! Yes you can wear them- bright red- fuchsia -- hot pink- in a splash or two- of course it adds spice!

You are not dead yet!

Pleated pants

2009-06-21T14:23:00.000-07:00

This girl is so silly- Did she write this in the 80-'s? Again NO -no one should wear pleated pants- well there are a few styles that more 'draped' than pleated-- and those are fab!

Nope- you put these away- at any age!

Bikinis

2009-06-21T14:18:00.000-07:00

Again, sorry! I have seen MANY women over 40 who look HOT in bikinis- and many under 40 who should not be wearing them.

I think most fashions can be worn by women of any (almost)age- it is the body that makes the difference- not the clothes.

Sorry, but if you are in shape you have more choices- if you are not in shape you are limited to what the public wants to see.....

So ladies get your sneakers on and enjoy the wonderful bounty of great clothes you can wear if you are HOT!

Sleeveless Shirts

2009-06-21T14:13:00.000-07:00

Again, I disagree I know many women over 40 that can wear sleeveless well. Sorry but it is the out of shape and overweight that should NEVER be seen like this!

Keep your arms in shape and you can wear sleeveless-

How-ever the top that the original writer put in her article- well you should not wear this 'anywear' but the cabin and the backyard- gardening.... at any age!

Jackets at mid thigh

2009-06-21T14:09:00.001-07:00

Jackets at mid thigh-- hmmm- I think most women cannot get away with this unless they are very tall- the image selected does not exactly show a jacket that I am opposed to.

It is well cut- a bit of a princess line- but most women do not need a line that cuts them at the thigh- unless they are tall and thin- Then any age can wear it!

This jacket actually looks like it could be a tad longer and narrowed a bit and be worn just above the knee- nice

Silly original writer!

10 things women over 40 should not wear

2009-06-21T14:04:00.000-07:00

This is not an original of mine- I stole it from another site--

but I sure do have some comments on this.

1) Women over 40 should not wear black leather pants.

Original writer- unless this article was posted in re-new era of black leather pants-- NO ONE should wear black leather pants- even rock stars- This is 2009!

BAD - period!

Comments

2009-06-20T22:09:00.000-07:00

Sorry Ladies and Gentlemen (yes there are a few )I did not realize the comment section was not working-- well it is on now. Due to google programming stuff I cannot make comments available of previous posts before I corrected the problem- so please post any comments on any older subjects here if you wish!

trying to get the comments to work on this blog

2009-06-17T18:13:00.000-07:00

sorry folks- just testing this- for some strange reason I cannot get the comments turned on - on this blog===

oh my goddess! My way of saying Oh my god---this is about us women! Goddesses

2009-06-07T17:20:00.000-07:00

I have left you alone for far too long.
Okay- the update on my 'withdrawal'..... was not bad. I was more scared than anything during the 2 weeks after, bad heartburn but that was about all. The weight started falling off, the liver thing corrected all was good.
Then the hormone thing= well I guess the pregnant mare stuff can make you bloated and cause stomach pain (I of course went off the nasty anti-depressants and the hormones at the same time!). Soon the night sweats and day sweats started --- .
Now for over a week been on the lowest dose of a hormone patch- so far good sleep, mind seems restored, moods are even and night sweats gone!

As bugs bunny would say ------- thhhaaaaaaaat alll folks.
for today.

YIKES Cymbalta

2009-04-23T09:36:00.000-07:00

Yikes!
I was so happy telling you about these 'happy pills' for going through the meno-pause and the feeling sometimes of depression-- well do not take cymbalta!
I had the worst case of chapped lips-extending all around my mouth about 1 inch- you know when you have to do the 'chapstick' thing and if the stuff was pink you would look like one of those crazy clown women? yup that was me!
Incredible pain in my abdomen for months now-severe constipation, complete lack of appetite, yet all the while gaining so much weight I stopped weighing myself, almost complete liver shut-down, headaches, pain the back of my eyeballs, weird dreams (the kind that only truly sick psychos should ever have) fall asleep in 5 minutes but can only sleep 4 hours a night, tired, no ambition!
BUT- dummy me- thinking the side effects would go away I stayed on them- ah and night sweats- but not as bad as the menopausal ones where you think you are peeing from your arm pits in the middle of the night (I know ughhhh!)..... so now 3 days after not taking any of that stuff and doing some research - it appears I was on the heroin/crack of anti-depressants.....supposed to be bad withdrawal.
So far I have not had a bad withdrawal, already feeling better, slept last night for 7 hours, starting to not have pain in my tummy, no nausea, actually very hungry yesterday, lips are already healing.......
BUT-- I will let you know if I lose it and turn into 'uber-bitch' in the next little while!
In the meantime if you are on this drug- please check it out- please ask your doctor and if not on it please truly consider before you take it---
Not really like the two sexy middle-aged folks in the TV commercials- I actually thought Cymbalta was for penile erection problems-- not for the curing the crazies!

Post post menopause

2009-04-20T08:59:00.001-07:00

Ahh,, chatting at a recent 50th birthday party with an almost 50 post-menopausal woman was enlightening.
There she was thin, great skin, calm and looking well rested!
The pure envy I felt was awful!
Chatting shortly later - "What do you do for that great skin, OMG look how thin you are!"
She was very sweet- explaining she will be 50 this summer, and has gone through the 'change'.
She gave me encouragement- it took about 3 years, yes she did gain weight, sometimes it seemed like she gained 5 pounds a day. She did not have severe hot flashes, or really bad night sweats! Lucky girl!
But what she did point out that nobody else has was the bloating! I thought something was wrong with my guts- she was the first person to discuss that constant bloated feeling~! aahah-- and it goes away too, the weight stabilized and you might even find you lose some after the menopause has ended!
There is a light at the end of the tunnel!
Yiphee- only another 3 or 4 years!

oh men- lovely men!

2009-04-17T12:42:00.000-07:00

What is it that men just do not seem to get as we age?
When we were young, we sat by the phone waiting for them to call.
The 'boys' were out being boys- and called you when they thought of it--
Now, the boys will not stop calling- 2-3 times a day!
Boys, us girls are not sitting around waiting for you to call-= we are busy!
We are out being busy.
Your constant calling is not flattering- it is - well it makes you seem desperate, or worse than that clingy, freakish, scary, controlling.
Men, relax we are over 40 do not try to control what she does, keep tabs on her, make snide comments if she is on the phone when you call, or out with some else for dinner.......
Trust me this is not high-school and you play those games with her - she will dump your ass pronto!
Remember the clingy, little girl in high school- she made you crazy and you had to get out!
Do not be that kind of man- you are trying to entice her in- not make sure she runs screaming out!

Menopause and vajajays

2009-03-25T18:00:00.001-07:00

tooo funny!
Had to add this blog to my links!!!
http://merlotmom.blogspot.com

ah have some fun!

2009-03-25T12:24:00.003-07:00

What sort of friend are you?
(we can still play these games)
http://fashion.glam.com/quizzes/detail/what_type_of_friend_are_you/

Mid-life crisis

2009-03-23T12:48:00.000-07:00

Yup--- finally having mine!
Not knowing if it is the continued snow fall, boring non-fullfillling job, still having to raise child (just turned 22 on Friday) not sure- but I want to run away!
Sell everything- take the cash (put that art in storage) and gallavant around the globe for a year or so with a backpack!
Ride out the BIG R--- have some fun!
http://www.selfabsorbed.me/the-early-midlife-crisis/

Is this really what this life is about- collecting stuff? Hanging around to support our kids forever?
When is it finally going to be time for ourselves? When we are so old we can't do anything? OR when we are so old we don't remember?
HMMMMMM- don't be surprised if this BIG R thing continue you find my blogs coming from faraway little mexican villages!

Cooked Romaine lettuce

2009-03-18T11:51:00.000-07:00

Cooked Romaine Lettuce

Ladies, I know this sounds a touch strange but a few years ago I had a Chinese university student stay at place on an exchange program and he was shocked we ate our head lettuce raw! He showed me how to cook head lettuce.... and it is very good.

Then, my brother got the idea- well if you can cook head lettuce bet BB'Q's romaine lettuce would be great!

Brian's BB'Q Romaine lettuce

1/2 and head of lettuce lenghtwise- sprinkle with salt, chopped garlic and pats of butter (olive oil can be used but treat yourself with the butter)
Lay face up-- allowing the larger leaves to hold the salt, garlic and butter) and BBQ for about 15 minutes- or until cooked! Yummy!

Then, I had the great idea with large amounts of romaine in stock and on sale at Costco-- (and also at a certain age it seems raw stuff gets harder on the tummy) I cooked my romaine on the stove with olive oil, garlic and red pepper flakes- no recipes as pretty easy- just saute down!
Yummy- easy on the tummy-- easy on the weight- !

Later, a neat cheap and easy recipe for under 200 calories!

weight! ughh!!!

2009-03-18T11:15:00.001-07:00

Okay... following the mid-life meltdown, the mini-mental-health holiday and the post-post-menopausal fallout- I had to deal with a winter that has not yet ended --- and about 20 extra pounds (I think that is what it is but I am not about to get on the scale to confirm that!)
So, for the next few weeks or months I will be getting up at 4 AM--- running for an hour and doing ab exercises for half and hour and trying to get the wieghts in as well.
After work-- another one hour of walking- just walking so I can get to bed (and sleep) at 8- so I can get up at 4-4:30!
Now- some say 'gosh just get over it- you are getting older- accept the extra weight!"
Well, that may be- but I can't afford new clothes- so I have to get back into my clothes!
Will let you know how it goes!

The letter

2009-03-12T11:34:00.000-07:00

Note- what impressed me the most was the last paragraph- if a brain damaged young person can have this attitude about life- we older folks better start to 'roll with the program'.

To whom it may concern:
First of all, I would like to thank you for considering my application for this award. In the upcoming essay, I will outline my reasons for applying for this award.

Informally, let me take this time to say “hello” and introduce myself. My name is*****, I am 21 years old and I currently attend Norquest. I will attain all my 30 courses as to ensure I am as knowledgeable as the rest of the student body coming fresh out of high school. Furthermore, there is a chance I may attend a university outside of the province as I aspire to attend a school with a baseball program, so it will be important that I write my diplomas also. I am unsure as to what I will study in university at this point. Several possibilities have presented themselves: I have considered a bachelor of arts, with the hope of getting good enough marks so that I am able to further my education and pursue my masters after I am done, perhaps specifying in psychology or political science… I have also considered staying faithful to my career goal and see how far I can get down that path, possibly becoming a doctor.

When I was younger I sustained a very traumatic brain injury. One night, while I was stunting pur se, I flew 6 feet from outside of a vehicle and landed head first on a curb. I was then immediately rushed to the hospital. This incident occurred on the west end; thankfully the friends I was with were unaware of the Misericordia Hospital nearby, so instead they took me to the University Hospital, which consequently saved my life. If I were delivered to the hospital a half an hour later than I was, I would have been dead. As the doctors later determined, I suffered a brain stem injury.

I am uncertain as to what part of the brain stem but if you are unaware the brain stem controls many of our automatic functions and serves as a communication center between the cerebellum and the frontal lobe. I was in a coma for nearly a month.

During those days while in a coma my mom was constantly asked to consider what kind of standard of life she would like me to have since it was predicted I would be in a vegetative state for the rest of my natural life upon release from the hospital; she was also asked on several occasions if she wanted me to be an organ donor. At one point, sneakily, not wanting anyone to know what they were up, the University Hospital, on a Sunday, phoned a specialist to come in and determine whether or not they could legally unplug me. According to law, if someone in coma has minimal brain activity, the institution that individual is in cannot legally unplug him/her; conversely, if that person is pronounced brain dead, that institution can legally pull the plug without approval from family or anyone in a state of authority of the individual hospitalized. It’s politics, it is a matter of money, consider how much money was being spent on me to keep me alive, lots! I appreciate the fact that they wanted me to go; they wanted to clear up space for someone who might have a chance at living, since I didn’t. Well, luckily, I had brain activity and they could not be rid of me so easily. A short time after that, I began to make such gains that I was transferred to the Glenrose, where I stayed for 5 more months.

During my rehabilitation at the Glenrose, I re-learned how to talk, walk, eat and how to use the washroom by myself. Basically everything we take for granted.

The accident disabled me both physically and mentally. But I hope not to the extent to which it “disables” me from fulfilling all my dreams and aspirations. I know that it is not holding me back at this point in my life. I am trying to attain the highest marks in school possible by working extremely hard and therefore getting my acceptance into a University of my choice. I also work extremely hard at rehabilitating my physical nature also. I workout when time permits; I also train during the winter with a group of athletes at Athlete’s Nation in St. Albert. I do whatever I can to ensure that I live the most fulfilling life possible attempting to limit any regrets down the road. I have big aspirations which I know I will achieve.

I don’t come from the richest or the poorest family, although considering “poor” is just a frame of mind. I live with my mom but I have full support from my father also, who is a big part of my life. My mom, to say the least, has seen better days financially, but it is not the end of the world and we will get through it. My father, similarly, is not the richest man. I do not live in poverty but this money that this award offers would help me out considerably. I work part time at the Alano club, a sobriety club, one day a week for 6 hours. My other form of income is from the government that I receive for going to school.

Last year I entered a contest called, “Agent For Change.” I became aware of the contest from advertisements on the bus. Its motto was, “someone 16-22 will change the world, is it you?” My answer was, “yes, it is me.” Sadly, it wasn’t. It wasn’t the end of the world though, it was fun. The contest’s criteria was to submit a 5 minute video, no longer, to the Agent For Change website. It asked that your video contain what you think should be changed in the world, and how you will make that change. I not only said that the publics political awareness/involvement should be increased, but that the publics environmental awareness/involvement should be increased also. The theme was too broad and I did not submit realistic enough solutions to be considered for top 10. I would be honoured if you checked out my video: you can access it by Googling *****or alternately you can go to You Tube and type in, “Agent For Change ****

I am also a member of the ACE student board committee. I have attempted to implement a recycling program into the school of Norquest also, but to no avail.

Another attempt that I have made to reach out into the community, for all the life experience I have accumulated so far in my life, is that I have contacted three schools, to date, and asked them to allow me to speak to their student body to talk about life choices and how they affect your life down the road. I would explore topics like drugs, insecurities, sports, work ethic and how important school really is. Sadly again, I got rejected. I have one more school I have in mind to contact. I feel very passionate about speaking to students of that age because when I was that age, to summarize my state of mind, I was a lost cause. I feel that there may be similar children who are experiencing the same problems that I faced. I think how sad it is how kids make such poor choices during a time that they don’t understand is so crucial to their future. I am just lucky that I have been given the chance to do things again that at one point in my life I took for granted, I can’t say everyone is that blessed.

In context, I have provided you with a brief history of my life. I listed some of my aspirations and dreams; I included some of my family background and a brief understanding of the obstacles I have overcome, and obstacles, that consequently, I face everyday.

One thing I am not afraid of is failure. They say that everyday you have a window of opportunity that presents itself, and that it’s up to you to take advantage of it. We as humans don’t know what opportunities to choose, or even when an opportunity actually does present itself. That is why I believe that you must do anything and everything that catches your attention, because that could be the opportunity you‘re looking for. It is also said that we make our own luck. Meaning, that if we do everything in our power to better ourselves, we’re creating opportunities for ourselves. In everything I venture into, I venture into 110% with the intention of being successful and finishing what I began.

I thank you for your consideration of my application and I look forward to hearing back from you. NOTE: I have also submitted my diploma transcript for English

ahhhh- kids!

2009-03-12T11:20:00.000-07:00

Gosh, I am not the most buttery of women or mothers.
Those of you that know me- know that many folks find me distant- and cold- then the ones that actually know me- think of me as quirky-- (I like that better). The folks that truly know me- know that I am actually a complete marshmallow when it comes to the people I love... my pets.. my son-- and some of my great friends.
My son has given me the run of my life- starting as 10 pounds 11 ounces baby and growing into a child with ADHD (attention deficient -hyper-activity disorder)...then to those lovely teenage years, drugs and all-- then the famous brain injury.
Well, after almost going bankrupt to get this kid on track- I feel so 'fluffed up today.....
I am attaching an essay he has done (his name deleted for the web)....
Yup- surviving the trials and tribulations of life, marriage, death, injury, work--- and seeing the light at the other end of the tunnel does make it all worth-while.
My ramblings- many of you are going through rough times- I have aload of experience in rough times- get up every day- put on your rose coloured glasses - put one foot in front of the other and carry on.
At night crawl into bed and thank the universe this day is over (bless the day if it was a good one) and know that tomorrow has the opportunity to be better than this last day.
Do that every day and you will be able to get through whatever challenge you are facing-- also as I heard a friend say "when you are going through hell don't stop"

the Bragg!

2009-03-08T09:41:00.000-07:00

Yiphhe!!!

Have to share this !

I have one of these for a few years- well made, fun easy to use!

(Now I need the panty one too-- gosh just in case I get to go anywhere!

(sorry, the images are not downloading correctly- but come on back and we will fix that!)http://www.thebragcompany.com

How to act like a lady and think like a man

2009-02-27T19:01:00.001-08:00

Interesting book- I think I might buy this.
However- the advice this man gives is the same advice I believe in-- and what I learned from my grandmother- not that I always followed it!
The one great line she told me years ago was
I was 14 and wanted to ask this cute new guy out. Hey, I was a new-age girl- I was equal- I could do what-ever men did!
My grandmother got wind of my scheme and told me to go ahead if I wanted- but if I wanted to have the 'power' why would I give it away?
I responded with 'I am equal, I am a girl I can do what men do."
She retorted that I was right--- "But.......who-ever has the power to say 'No'... is the one with the true power.
(Hence- if I asked and he said No- he was the one with the power--- if I was asked and I said No- I am the one with the power.
A lesson I have never forgot-- you can create a situation where the gentleman will want to ask you out---- draw him in if you will- yes-- life is a tad of a game- get over it! Play coy- flirt- become the woman he would want---- then you have the power!
Say Yes---- to a date- coffee-- not sex-- of course if you really want to see him again!
More on that tomorrow---

depression over 40

2009-02-27T08:18:00.000-08:00

hmmmm.... this is going to be a rather blunt and honest blog-- about goals, aspirations, losing them in the reality of teenagers, failed marriages and the fog hauling in dementia to cover our elders.
Through living through life we tend to get tired, drink too much wine, and fail to 'get up and go' to finish our life dreams..... they seem like the lighthouse on the far away shore over the rough water and almost hidden through the dense fog of life.
I, like many of you, have struggled with the fog days and while the struggle is hard and to admit the weakening of our spirits it is a struggle that is indeed even more important as we do fade.
Depression- what an ugly word- and I am not talking about the lack of money currently in circulation in the world.
Finally, after years of not even realizing I had indeed fallen down a deep well of depression, "it is just stress, it is meno-pause, it is stress' I finally had to realize the life I was living was indeed in a fog.
Going home after work just to go to bed-lying on the couch watching more TMZ and another CSI re-run, every excuse not to workout, go-out, lots of time to run and get more wine and a movie to hibernate in the safe confines of my basement.....
Ladies, this is not living
Hiding from work, responsibilities-- not interested in your former loves of loves- what ever hobby (or man) that may be......
If you are finding the season, the weather, the financial market, your marriage or singledom is somehow just not working- please do not be as stubborn as I was- go to the doctor and he has the best happy pills in the world!
Yahoo-- I see some painting, writing, finally getting those taxes done (actually dealing with some life issues that need to be dealt with and not piled under the already very lumpy rug).
Happy pills are for me!

WOW- get aload of those emeralds!

2009-02-23T08:29:00.000-08:00

Angelina - I know is not 40 yet- but she is in training and will be a stunner when she gets here. She is soooo coool ( some folks prefer the pouty- poor little me Jennifer- but for me the strong self-assured Angelina is much sexier!) She knows how to dress- never do her clothes outshine her but rather enhance her beauty--- and those emeralds!

Not as splashy as huge diamonds but much more elegant- would love to know how much!

Men and women sin in different ways

2009-02-19T08:37:00.001-08:00

Men and women sin in different ways
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CARLY WEEKS
From Thursday's Globe and Mail
February 19, 2009 at 9:10 AM EST
Men who drool over the Victoria's Secret catalogue may be risking more than a glare from their main squeeze - they may earn a one-way ticket to hell. But at least they'll be in the company of women who boast about their shoes.
According to The Times of London, a recent survey reported in the Vatican newspaper reveals that while Catholic men and women both sin, they do so in very different ways. For men, lust, gluttony and sloth are the offences most often committed. For women, it's pride, followed by envy and anger.
The analysis of church confessions, conducted by a Jesuit priest, revealed telling gender differences and has created a sensation in Britain, where it was widely reported yesterday.
After lust, gluttony and slothfulness, men are most likely to commit sins of anger, pride, envy and avarice. For women, pride, envy and anger are followed up by lust, gluttony and slothfulness.
Media reports say the analysis was conducted by Roberto Busa, and was reported after Monsignor Wojciech Giertych, personal theologian to Pope Benedict XVI and the papal household, attested to the gender differences in the Vatican newspaper L'Osservatore Romano.
A spokesperson for the Canadian Conference of Catholic Bishops declined comment, saying the assembly is aware of the media reports but has not yet read the su

Moms and over 40

2009-02-15T11:57:00.000-08:00

Today, while I was making beef soup and stew to pack in my son's lunch for the coming week or so I had time to contemplate life.
We rush around so much to make the money, make something of ourselves, smart, glamorous successful and then when tough times coming falling around our heads we feel like we have failed.
Making the lunches had me thinking how terrific my life is, grateful to have my son and the ability in this crazy world to save grocery money by making these things homemade. The lunches will have extra love in them- even if they are simple comfort peasant fare.
Life does show us what is important and today I am filled with the most love and sense of accomplishment that I have felt in years
Next week it will hamburger soup, hamburger stew and maybe a meatloaf!
Simple food filled with love and of all the titles I have held- Mom is the best!

Definition of a Cougar

2009-02-13T10:01:00.000-08:00

What is a Real Cougar? She is style, she is grace, she is smart, she is a leader. She has worked hard, learned a lot and excelled at whatever she chose to do. She doesn’t ever have to apologize for being successful – she has earned her stripes.

“Real Cougars” are business women, and they are wives and mothers. A “Real Cougar” is not defined by a band on her finger, it’s her attitude about life. She is a woman who is constantly looking for new opportunities and knows how to get what she wants. Sometimes things don’t work out exactly as she plans, but she grows from each and every experience.

In folklore a cougar quietly take control of a situation. Sometimes this can lead to conflict with others over territory. A cougar is associated with leadership and teaches decisiveness in the use of personal power.

True leadership through gentle assertiveness is what cougar teaches those with this totem. Cougar people are often very sure of themselves, not taking any unnecessary steps or exerting any extra energy beyond what is required of them to achieve their goal. Most cougars learn by trial and error, which strengthens them and hones their skills.

A cougar will leap at opportunities. They take control of their lives and circumstances most effectively.

5 Components of a Real Cougar

Health & Wellness:

A Real Cougar Cougar knows that feeling good is the most important thing. Her body is changing each decade. It's her responsibility to keep it running at full capacity.

Beauty:

A Real Cougar doesn’t want to look 25. However she understands the importance of looking sexy and fabulous for the age she happens to be.

Relationships:

A Real Cougar knows that relationships are difficult to maintain. What’s interesting about being over 40 is your priorities change. Now it’s time to focus in on what you really want and stop pleasing everyone else.

Financial Freedom:

A Real Cougar knows the importance of being financially independent. Without that you never feel completely secure.

Mindset:

A Real Cougar knows how important it is to have a mindset that's programmed for success. Knowing how to tap into her spirit and her intuition is essential.

Aging is inevitable – how you age is always your choice!

Ellen Barkin- over 40 and fabulous

2009-02-11T09:59:00.000-08:00

Ellen Barkin continues to bite back at former husband Ronald Perelman.
Ellen's spokesman confirmed that she has signed on to do an HBO pilot about a woman who struggles to find her bearings after a high-profile divorce from a wealthy businessman. Obviously, the material’s right up Barkin’s alley — Perelman famously tossed her from their luxury apartment after handing her divorce papers in 2006. Barkin ended up getting $60 million from the billionaire, and raked in about another $20 million when she auctioned off jewels given to her by the mogul.
One evening when Barkin accidently bumped into Perelman with Anna Chapman, his new girlfriend, at a New York restaurant, she threw a glass of water in his face and hissed at Chapman: "I feel sorry for you having to (bleep) him tonight."
Shauna Cross, the woman who's writing the pilot script, describes her vision: "You have this character in her early 50s whose life explodes suddenly. Her nerve and life experience allows her to tell the world to go screw itself, and they love her for it."
Welcome to the world of Real Cougars over 40!

Cougars- in the best of ways!

2009-02-11T09:55:00.000-08:00

ah I want to find the blog link for this!

Yikes, fabulous and chicly poor!

2009-01-07T08:54:00.000-08:00

Ah- I remember why I love the song- 'The lady is a Tramp so much!"
Such a perfect song- and even in the song- it is noticed "she's broke'
So, you can be a lady, broke, fun, exciting and now even over 40!
I think- truly, this not wearing the same dress again, or at the same time as someone else is truly childish- if you are that concerned about those sorts of things- ensure you have a personal style and accessorize then you will never look like someone else! .
But above all- I think- thin thighs, great skin, hair, nails and teeth are truly the sign of wealth and being well cared for.
So- exercise---diet alone does not work!! You must work out=- at least 1/2 hour every day- better 1 1/2---
Moisturize your skin esp. in the harsh winter weather, Vaseline on feet and hands at night- sock and gloves- humidifier beside your bed.
Moisturize you hair and leave in all Sunday- rinse out Monday morning- keeps it bright, shiny and controls the fly-aways.
Sleep and water- lots of both......
and oh yes- you can wear last years clothes if you look good underneath.
I do not understand why so many women feel they can and should hide behind expensive clothes and jewels and do not take care of the basics, their hair, skin and body!!!
Sorry ladies, but you look OLDER- with expensive clothes and are out of shape with uncared for hair, skin and nails..... you are not fooling anyone.
BUT, you can look rich and fab in last years clothes if you are vibrant and full of energy!

poverty chic-staying fab

2008-12-30T10:57:00.001-08:00

Since, many folks are now in the boat I have been for awhile- I feel a tad like the older sister ( easy on the pun there) where at least I can help some of my new 'poverty chic' sisters into my midst and perhaps offer some survival tips.
1) You do not need the newest duds every season- stick with your staples and add drama- if you like drama- if you like being a 'beige' person then don add any fun drama!
2) Always--- ALWAYS- take care of your skin- do not scrimp here- go without the clothes- manicure yourself at home- eat Metamucil for weeks-( you will be regular and thin, full- and after your body gets used to it not bloated--) anything you need to do - keep the skin looking fab!
3) Smile and excellent posture- sorry but it is true- you should never leave the house without putting your smile on-- and excellent posture always makes even the least expensive outfit look great 'cause you look rich under it!

hmmm- judging look after 40

2008-12-30T09:50:00.000-08:00

Gentlemen, you can respond for free here and there is a tad of a conundrum.......
One that many of you have faced before- me never really faced it as due to my shallow nature if a man was not appealing to me in a physical way- I just simply and swiftly passed him over.
That has left me single- however do not assume that makes me lonely or desperate- actually I enjoy my singledom as I detest having any man tell me what to do, when, how or why.....
Hence good thing I am single- in my own defense though I have had the 'husband' from hell- raised the child from downunder- and now I simply enjoy some peace from the onslaught of men controlling behaviour.
Yes, I know there are some fabulous men out there- and to my saving grace some of them are my friends- so thank you......
BUT-- what does one do when they meet a person of the opposite gender that appreciates and enjoys the same activities, they make you laugh, they...
are smart, funny, in control, confident- have their 'shit' together--- and yes even are financially stable- even in this economy........
but what do you do if they are in shape--- fit....... and honestly ...... just not attractive?
I know this is a common problem but truly how shallow are we?
If we had all taken the one -or two people we have met in our lives that actually compliment us =aside from their genetic blessed exteriors (to which they simply inherited and in no way 'earned' the way they look)if we simply took up with the people we actually like- would this world not be a better place and with far less single folks (again, not that being single is bad)
Any advice-- and have any of you 'settled' with not as a stellar looking partner-- but would not change them for anything- and finally are happy?

New poverty chic

2008-12-30T08:56:00.000-08:00

Poverty chic---
aha- finally something I have the opportunity to be on the leading edge of.
How to get around looking chic on a penny- and an old one at that!
Things have already been lightened up for me so much- for so long I would watch the huge houses, the clothes, the cars, the vacations and wonder where do these people get all their money?
Yes, indeed the last few years have been like getting my doctorate in life- (poor and way too much learning curve) but it appears my doctorate in life may serve me well now.
I have long given up judging folks by their money, possessions, even their education and instead have a great admiration for those that have been mired in struggles.
It would seem now that the graciousness of kindness, creativity, hard work, surviving with grace under pressure and new-found poverty may make the masses a much kinder, gentler and even tempered lot once they too realize-- we are not what we own but who we are that makes us special in our own ways.
Poverty can actually increase our sense of self- open new doors to find our own values and inner - harmony - and those open doors can let out the negativity of ego based ideals

diets and exercise

2008-12-17T08:13:00.000-08:00

unfortunately when our metabolism decides we hit that peri-menopause state and rather quickly shuts down on us--- there is little we can do that is easy to stay in those slinky little clothes!
Exercise is a must- regardless of how little or what you eat.... say an hour on the treadmill every day!
I am also sad to say but it appears on me anyway that 2 glasses of wine= 3-5 pounds that take at least 5-7 days to get rid of.
We may just have to become green tea tottlers to try to stay in shape- nevermind the headaches that even 2 glasses of good red wine cause!

winter skin-part two

2008-11-15T10:56:00.000-08:00

Please write more about how to keep skin looking young." Or, "What can I do to keep my skin from drying up like an old prune during the winter months?"
I receive many requests like these asking me to write about medical problems. But whenever I write about skin care, the response dwarfs other mail. So here's what a prestigious clinic says about aging skin.
Mayo Clinic doctors don't bother to soften the truth of how we gradually lose our baby-soft "body glove" in which we were born.
Their studies show that our oil producing glands become less active and blood vessels decrease leaving us with thinner, fragile and finely wrinkled skin.
But four habits will help to keep some of that youthful colour and glow.
Habit 1: Protect yourself from the sun. It's the invisible, intense ultraviolet light that causes damage to skin leaving deep wrinkles, rough dry skin and liver spots. It's lifetime exposure that counts and this may also cause benign and malignant growths.
Remember that only "mad dogs and Englishmen go out in the noonday sun". But Mayo Clinic doctors suggest that when you do, wear long sleeves and tightly woven fabrics such as denim rather than knits.
Today you can also buy protective (SPF) clothing that blocks out ultraviolet rays.
Habit 2: Stop smoking! A study from Oxford University shows smoking decreases your time on this planet by 20 years!
In addition, your skin won't look as good when you enter the pearly gates! Years of smoking will have narrowed tiny blood vessels in the skin, robbing it of oxygen and nutrients such as vitamin A. This also increases damage to elastic fibers and collagen which give the skin strength and elasticity.
Mayo physicians raise another interesting point about smoking - by pursing your lips when inhaling and squinting your eyes when exhaling to keep out the smoke, you contribute to wrinkles. And that the heat from cigarettes damages the skin over the years.
In fact they say these changes can happen in just 10 years of puffing on cigarettes.
Habit 3: Wash all body skin with tender loving care. This means short baths and showers with warm water, not hot water. Not good news for me and others who prefer long, hot showers.
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Mayo Clinic also advises against strong soaps that strip oil from your skin leaving it dry. It suggests mild ones or detergent substitutes which contain added oils and fats. The good choices are Cliniderm, Dove, Cetaphil and Purpose.
Stay clear of soap additives such as perfumes and dyes which can irritate skin and also cause an allergic reaction.
If you're wearing makeup use a soft sponge or cotton balls to remove it. And for heavy, waterproof makeup you need oil-based products such as Aquaphor or petrolatum jelly.
Finally, be sure to pat dry your skin with a soft towel. All of this is time consuming, of course, so I assume this is why more men end up with prune faces than women.
Habit 4: In real estate the slogan for success is "location, location, location." The secret for skin care is moisturize, moisturize, moisturize to prevent winter itch and leather-like skin. Over-heated homes, carpets, fireplaces and furniture all suck moisture out of the air. One study showed the average home is as dry as the Sahara Desert! It's no wonder that so many people complain of dry, flaky and sometimes red skin.
Mayo doctors don't mention any specific moisturizers. But there are two excellent lotions, Reversa and Neostrata which contain glycolic acid (AHA), a natural derivative of sugar cane. Research shows that these lotions not only moisturize but improve the top layer of the skin (stratum corneum) thereby sealing and locking in moisture to smooth and soften the skin.
Dr. Suzanne Gagnon, a prominent Montreal dermatologist, advises that for maximum effect Reversa or Neostrata lotion should be applied to dry skin. She reminds us that all parts of the body need moisture, especially where the stratum corneum is thick like the elbows, knees and feet. And remember that soft feet don't tear nylons.
So moisturize, moisturize, and did I say moisturize?
The products she recommends are products I have used, they are moderate in price and also came to me via my dermatologist- remember the home humidifier as well!

Makeup for 'experienced women'

2008-11-15T10:16:00.000-08:00

Hi!
Hope you are all doing well.
Today some make-up ideas
Georgio Armani Luminous Silk Foundation a fantastic cover, light, non-acne causing makeup.
I like this one for the day as it feels and looks like nothing is on your skin- remember though a good primer is always vital- I recommend the matching Fluid Sheer from the same line. You may have to order this through Holt Renfrew- or from Vegas- but it is worth it.
For more formal coverage but still elegant I like the primer and makeup from Chanel Vitalumiere line- again light and offer more coverage that the Georgio Armani but I cannot wear it everyday as I will break out- so I keep this one on hand for those special days when you want to look extra fab!
Evening makeup- calls for more coverage and perfection! To this end I keep Laura Mercier and the matching primer on hand.... this is a heavier coverage and makes you look PERFECT- but you do look like you have a makeup on- so I keep this one in the back of the vanity for special dates, the theatre anything where perfection is desired--

Skin pigmenting

2008-11-14T09:54:00.000-08:00

I know, you think Obagi is paying me- they are not this stuff is simply amazing for all skin that I have come across.
Obagi-C system is the one to try for reducing pigmentation- it works great for me and has almost removed all of my hyper-pigmentation in less than a month with no redness! It leaves a glow that would make the 20 somethings jealous. I have to balance it with the acne line as it is a touch rich for my acne prone skin- but then again I have problem skin!

There is no place in Edmonton to buy this line- so I have included a link to the place in Vancouver where I ordered mine from.
http://http://www.skinworks.ca/derm_obagi.html
http://www.obagi.com/

Adult Acne

2008-11-13T09:48:00.000-08:00

Okay, I have another fab product (you know how I love Obaji) my son had acne and we tried everything- plus I still suffer. Then Obaji came up with a new line Clenziderm M.D. acne line. This stuff is remarkable. My son tried the acne line advertised on-line ad-naseum, and it worked okay but not terrific.
This stuff is fabulous- not over drying, safe for my aging sensitive skin (on the occasion I need to borrow some of his).
Worth looking into for you and your kids!

The Brag Company

2008-11-12T10:24:00.001-08:00

hi!
I have a new link for this cute and sassy company! The brag company creates wonderful carry-alls to protect your fancy bras while travelling= take a look!
They just contacted me to announce their new website!

http://thebragcompany.com/

Winter and your skin

2008-11-11T13:20:00.001-08:00

I live in a very cold, dry climate and it is vital to care for your skin differently in the cold then during the warmer months
1) place a humidifier by your bed!
2) exfoliate!!! I use Yonka products- Gommage 305 for sensitive skin for me- it is not too harsh as I have adult acne- gentle cleansing twice a week helps the dry skin and believe it or not the cold actually increase our blemishes. So exfoliate!
3) I follow with Yonka Masque 105- again for sensitive skin as this hydrates without adding oil and leave a wonderful clean moisturized face!
Do not forget sunblock in the winter- the reflection of the sun off the snow intensifies the sun damage and wear good sunglasses (polarized lenses- not just fashion glasses!) to reduce squinting and the increase of wrinkles around the eyes!
http://www.yonka.com

Thank you for your post

2008-11-11T13:06:00.001-08:00

Actually, I have asked the lady that did my brows for photos to publish and I will send her your recent request in order to hopefully speed up that process!
thanks and check back! They truly do frame the face and act like a mini-facelift!

Four basic Food Groups

2008-08-16T14:32:00.000-07:00

1) Fruit--- grapes- perferably aged- wine
2) Dairy--- aged milk-- supurb cheeses
3) Protein- from the water- think lobster,crab, scallops- I like anything that keeps and travels with their house!
4) Chocolate!
and you will live lovely for-ever!

Bathe like Cleopatra

2008-08-15T14:27:00.000-07:00

and Kick it up a notch!
The historic beauty used to bathe in milk- camel or goat not sure- but it was claimed she bathed in milk for her lovely and famous skin-- you can do- and kick it up
You love chocolate? Of course you do!
How about bathing in it? Why not?
2 Tablespoons unsweetened coca powder
1/2 cup dry milk powder
1/2 cup unscented - or try a mint or vanilla scent--bubblebath
Toss them all into the bath- rub with your hands or mix before in a bowl to get rid of any clumps
light the candles- glass of red wine- or grande marnier- hey chocolate and GM are divine!

Dark clothes and deodorant

2008-08-14T08:14:00.000-07:00

I have tried many of the new products promising to give us protection and also protect our blacks from the dreaded fog of white!
What I have found- really works--Mitchum smart solid
available in a multitude of senses!
no more 'fog' under your arms!

Armpit and whooohoo hair!

2008-08-14T08:09:00.001-07:00

Ladies, come on! This is summer and you all know how to wax and shave! If you are too busy to groom, anty up for the laser system. While not truly permanent, you may have to go for once a year updates- laser does work fabulously!

Then you can cheer all you want and we won't see the stubble!

In addition, as we age the hair down there seems to spread like our thighs-- one of my friends insists this is natures way to get 'old' women to cover up more and save the planet from things other people really do not want to see- like cellulite, jiggly thighs and such--- but come on --please groom!

You do the laser whoohooo hair thing too -on your upper thighs and across the tops of the legs- Please we do and can see!

Ginger tea and female bloating!

2008-08-04T16:37:00.000-07:00

This is amazing for relieving bloat- and a detox!!!!!
simple- take some fresh ginger root- remove the skin and slice the meat into thin slices- throw into a pot let boil and simmer- more ginger longer steep stronger the tea will be. Pour into a teacup- or mug- add honey and lemon to taste.
Trust me- make a big pot and drink over a period of a few days and you will not have any bloat left- but ensure you plan on staying close to the ladies room for a few days as well!

exercise over 40

2008-08-03T15:46:00.000-07:00

The magic formula for keeping off lost weight
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SIRI AGRELL
From Tuesday's Globe and Mail
July 29, 2008 at 9:36 AM EDT
To drop 10 per cent of their body weight and keep it off for two years, obese and overweight women must exercise at least 55 minutes a day, five days a week, according to a new study.
Research published in the Archives of Internal Medicine this week said that in addition to limiting calories, overweight and obese women must exercise substantially more than was previously recommended.
"The less they exercised the less weight they lost and the less they kept off," said John Jakicic of the University of Pittsburgh, who led the study. "It seemed like this magic number of 275 [minutes a week] is what really made a difference."
Dr. Jakicic and his team spent two years studying 191 women between the ages of 21 and 45 with a body mass index of 27 to 40, which is above the threshold of healthy weight. Before taking part in the research, all of the women exercised less than 20 minutes a day, fewer than three days a week.
The women were prescribed diets of between 1,200 and 1,500 calories a day, and were divided into groups with different exercise goals.
While women in various groups lost weight, only those who exercised more than 55 minutes a day, five days a week, managed to keep the weight off two years later.
"We really wanted to delve into the issues around how much you might really need to do to keep this weight off long term," Dr. Jakicic said. "This study sheds some clear light on what those numbers need to be."
Before this study, health professionals often recommended that people exercise for a minimum of 30 minutes, five days a week. But that level is helpful only for those trying to maintain their health, Dr. Jakicic said, and is not effective for those who have managed to lose a large amount of weight and are trying to keep that weight off.
Obesity is a major issue in Canada, where 59 per cent of adults are overweight, including 23 per cent who are obese, according to Statistics Canada. Overweight is defined as having a BMI - an approximation of body fat based on height and weight - of more than 25, while a BMI of more than 30 indicates obesity.
But much of the focus on obesity has centred on issues of diet and ignored the impact of regular physical activity.
"There's been so much about the Atkins diet and the Zone diet and surgery," Dr. Jakicic said. "But even people who have the surgery gain weight again without a major lifestyle change."
Dr. Jakicic does not believe people should be discouraged by the exercise level required by his findings, even though working out 55 minutes a day, five days a week, may sound like too punishing a regimen.
Most of the women who were successful in the study were working mothers, he said, and got their exercise by walking. They were only required to reach a moderate level of intensity with their workouts, and few women put in serious hours at the gym.
"This shouldn't be discouraging. It can be done," he said. "They were able to find ways to make it work with their lifestyle."
Keeping up the intense workout schedule was sometimes difficult, Dr. Jakicic admitted, but because the women were focusing on both diet and exercise, they were able to make up for any momentary lapses of will.
"Not that over two years these women didn't flounder," he said. "But when they floundered with their diet, they were a little more diligent with their exercise."
The women exercised in periods that would previously have been designated as "sitting time," spent in front of a TV, a computer or a book.
"Most women say, 'I can't fit this into my lifestyle because it's going to negatively impact my family and children,' " he said. "When in fact what's negatively impacting the family is that they're not taking care of themselves

Develope a trademark Flower arrangement

2008-08-02T15:47:00.001-07:00

I have a friend who does have the best taste in the world and also enough cash to spoil herself!However, she has a standing order at the local floriest for a very dark almost black navy blue Calla Lily that she picks up every Thursday for her front entrance-- sometime a few--.
Her home is that of an upscale New York penthouse- but it is these small touches that make her so special!
Search yourself, your home and choose one trademark flower or arrangment and use that repeatedly in your home!

Your own slogan!

2008-08-02T15:36:00.000-07:00

On some of the other blogs- ladies in pubic -- we have chatted about ways to live a fabulous life- since I have seen most of you like this blog best I will put a few of these tricks here as well-- or you can visit- ladies in public--
We can create our own crest, our own logo well why not our own 'slogan'.
Emeril has one- 'bam!'
That guy with the comb over has one "your fired'.
the old lady who swindled folks has one -- (jee I cant remember hers)
so come up with one of your own!
so as Nike would say "just do it".
...... hmmmm- guess I need to think of one myself----

Luxury for your tired tootsies!

2008-08-02T15:34:00.001-07:00

Simple at home spa treatment!
Take your thickest most luxurious cotton socks, sprinkle with a few drops of water (really nice if you use rosewater!) pop them into the microwave for a few minutes (depends on your microwave) slather warmed lotion on your little tired feet and pull on the toasty warm socks!
Yummy- kind of related to the vaseline on your feet to keep them dainty, crack and wrinkle free!

Thin hair- OMG yes it happens to us too!

2008-07-27T18:08:00.000-07:00

I naturally have very fine hair- then this age thing happens too!
Ughh- however I have found a way that makes my thin flat hair look like a fab head of hair!
Phyto- is the line for me- I use alternate shampoos- one for thinning hair one day- one for fine hair the next-- a couple sprays of hytovolume- a combination of conditioners and voila!
It is not for the faint of wallet- but I colour my hair myself and yes trim it at home too!
A girl has to be frugal sometimes-- then the pills! YES! I thought is was a sham- but always the girls to try something new- I did!
They work- phytophanere- little expensive pills that will actually make your hair grow faster and thicker! It does work- really! I have bought a few times take for 3 months at a time then again 6 months later!
http://www.phyto.com/

Dark skin pigment

2008-07-19T10:34:00.000-07:00

I have been having darkening skin on my face in the past year or so- on top of the pregnancy mask I inherited for giving my son life!
This darkening of skin can be removed my two different types of lasers- however the one continuiung concern is the sun. It is the exposure to sun that recreates the dark spots- so ensure you are using a 60 sunblock on your face and I have found Obaji Sunfader to be helping.
Now, however in the fall I will my favorite doctor again- to have some laser to remove the damage caused by the summer sun!
Ouch- this getting old is sure expensive

Black

2008-06-10T15:06:00.001-07:00

Black as we know is a staple in our wardrobes- black pants, black t-shirts, black turtlenecks..... but go one step further for instant glamour- black velvet.
Black velvet is never really in high fashion, and there-fore is never really out! You can grab a nice full lenght long black velvet skirt, pants, tuxedo pants..... and they can hide out in your closet until you need them-- instant glamour!

Fractional Laser

2008-06-03T11:54:00.001-07:00

Ladies, this is the secret of the stars!
This miraculous machine takes years off your face, texture, discolouration, tightens, all without that 'just had a facelift' look!
I promise you this is what you have been looking for- add a touch of botox and fillers if needed and voila- 10 years younger!
This does hurt so have someone drive you- take advantage of the extra strength Tylenol ( it does take multiple visits and up to 6 months to see results)
A young friend of mine had a more aggressive laser treatment for very deep acne scaring- recuperation was long and painful- and honestly in the end -did not look any better. She saw the changes happening in my skin and signed on with Dr. Liao for the fractional treatments as well. She is going to need 7-8 treatments and then perhaps some filler for some of the pesky deep scars but she already looks radiant- after only 3 treatments!
Her mother has also joined the fractional bandwagon- combining with some fat transfer to soften her features- and she is thrilled!
Ladies you are so worth this- and this is from someone who has had laser resurfacing, and the old fashioned resurfacing that left me in the hospital for 3 days and 6 months of recuperation (okay that was 20 years ago with literally a metal brush and to remove scars from a car accident- never do that again) but this new Fractional Laser- you deserve it!
Microdermabrasion- was very harsh on my skin and caused me to break out- that is also old news- I have had very bad skin my entire life- so trust me I have tried everything!
http://jyliao.ab.ca/, has been treating my skin for years- with the exception of the deep laser treatment - that was another doctor in the city as Dr. Liao refused to do it- she said I would hyperpigment- and I did. Off I went to her to fix me!
check it out-= and while there remember under arm hair is not so sexy- so a couple of laser treatments and you can go to yoga without ever having to worry about your arms!
Weight today is good 127- but man the treadmill work is tough- age is fun- but trying to stay ahead of it is tiring and expensive!

Permanent eyebrows- and weight

2008-06-01T17:11:00.000-07:00

Well, the brows have settled in and they do fantastic! Only now the rest of me is far from perfect and I have these incredible brows to live up to- yes I would highly recomment it!
(pics are coming- promise)
The weight thing- well after a certain age a lady does need to workout - a good diet is not enough- the weight settled in today at 130 and now for me to stay away from the wine- workout- eat properly and try to get that down to 128 by this time next week.
My goal is around 120 and I am giving myself one month to lose the weight- and get back into some of my clothes!
Hope your weekend was fantastic- I did some organic gardening and yard work, ironed pillow cases and worked on a few articles and the weekend is now gone!
take care ladies

I am a wimp!

2008-05-29T09:12:00.000-07:00

First the eyebrows, I was a tad freaked out and actually took my mom with me for moral support and to take the pics! (which are coming). The idea of having a tatoo was hard on me (I hate needles!) then a tatoo on my face! Oh my! So, it was painful,but as my mom says I am a wimp- I did not look while there as I knew I would freak out.
The first night was terrible, I hurt, or thought I hurt, took some 'old' painkillers to help me sleep, instead I go nasaus and could not sleep, replayed the scene in my mind and could not do anything the next day due to no sleep, and withdrawal from my stupid and taking out of date painkillers! Dummy me!
I finally looked and was again freaked out, I have perfect glamour girl brows, Linda took the brows toward my nose a tad to offset the over tweezing I did while young. Filled in the lost hairs, now I have perfect dark brows like the Hollywood star Selma Hayak- oh my what a label to work towards.
I am not perfect, my hair is always a mess, my face breaks out, I have colour pigment, and now perfect brows the rest of my face needs to live up to!
It will take awhile for me to get used to this 'perfection' but I shall try!
The weigth thing- well I gained almost a pound- due to wine, and not working out.I do think- especially at this age we MUST work out every day, treadmill at the very least for about an hour, then the weights, yoga, or whatever else we need for core muscles, muscles, and flexiblity.
There are many women now experiencing the new rebirth of their years, and getting excited about fullfilling thier own dreams that often have been put on hold to raise husbands and children.
That is where I am and the new rebirth is time consuming and thought provoking.
AHHHH- almost forgot, my mom whose now perfect brows was the catalyist to me getting permannet brows- the look my mom has at 69 is incredible! Her face has been so opened up and lifted by simply having her brows cared for- well she now has gotten her fist facial!
My goodness, luxury with caviar, pampering, she is now embracing her own inner goddess, and that is what I wanted to accomplish with this blog for all of us over 40Shoot now it is for over 70 also!
You go girls!
www.skinenhancement.ca

oouch! permanent eyebrows

2008-05-27T17:26:00.000-07:00

Well, after at least two years of thinking I finally took the plunge and had my face tattooed! Permanent eyebrows- which I have been promised fade with time. The lady that did this has been featured in previous posts and truly is the 'artisan' of brows in western Canada. She has waxed mine now for a few years, done my 69 year old mothers' (which looked like a facelift after she was done- girls save your money get your brows waxed by the best in your town) waxed my 21 year old son's.... and I have checked out her work for over 2 years as far as 'permanent makeup goes'.....
It hurt- but I am a wimp... and today my son laughed at me over the dark brows- I am confident though that they will look terrific- and in the next few days I will post the pics and in a week the 'final' results.'
So stay tuned
As far as the weight thing goes- today I was 129=--- but remember good diet and 2 hours on the treadmill---
Tomorrow the weight might go up-- I had some wine after the eyebrows today!
will let you know
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Sexy photos

2008-05-24T09:29:00.000-07:00

We must all hand it to the wildly brave 'not perfect' Ivory models. They bared all- in all their glory, older, thinner, curvy and all!
Those ads got me thinking about perfect beauty and the confidence we all should have and or aquire......
Why not?
Go out and find a terrific photographer and have some great 'nudes' done of yourself. They do not have to be 'porn-like' more artistic, great lighting, poses that really do not show all our 'stuff', black and white, a touch of touch-ups and voila- you too can be a centrefold.
Age- yuk- forget about that- a few wrinkles- adds personality- and what a wonderful time for you to get intouch with your sexy, feminine and confident side!
Go girsl!

Summer Feet

2008-05-23T09:12:00.001-07:00

As we all know as we age- so do our feet! One of my pet peeves is seeing women in sandles with the sandpaper and cracked heels! UGGH!!
Years ago my grandmother taught me this simple secret to terrific feet and the cost is almost free!
Simply keep a large size of 'Vaseline' beside your bed- (I know I have gotten some strange looks from folks as well- so now I hide it under my bed- not that many folks are in my room anymore- but that is for a different blog)at night before you get into bed slather on the vaseline on your feet then pull on a heavy pair of socks!
VOILA- IN NO TIME YOU will have smooth sexy feet, that then still do need to pedicured-- another take on this is to wrap your feet in old plastic bags before sliding on the socks. (even after many washes your 'feet' socks will no longer get the oil out and they get kinda grimmy- so the plastic bags help the vaseline work better and also save your socks and sometimes your sheets from getting oil stains!
Yes, for you married or sharing a bed ladies maybe not so sexy- but sometimes a girl needs to do what a girl needs to do.
And, while it has been awhile- I have had more compliments from men on my soft skin and smooth feet- while running them up his leg--- then anything else! (YES, that also is for another blog!)

Pimples and Wrinkles

2008-05-18T09:41:00.001-07:00

Oh my- what a sense of humour mother nature has! After struggling with pimples since my very early teenage years, now I have wrinkles and still get pimples. Being a tad out of date with the newest and best pimple solutions, and having a teenage son, I took to finding the best solutions for him- and then tried them on myself.
Here are a few of the products we discovered that work- with varying degrees of success ( some worked find for my son but were too drying for my dry, sensitive, wrinkle forming more mature face).
Proactive- we tried this product line with very good results- it worked well for me as well- but not as well as I would of liked. However the one all star product they have that works very well on my pimples and my sons' larger, deeper more serious 'spots'....Proactive Refining Mask should be one everyone's shelf for those unexpected little blemishes. They miraculously seem to disappear while you sleep!
While this line worked well I wanted to try out a new line by one of my favorite skin care companies ( we will discuss those products in a separate blog) Obagi has come out with a wonderful new line for acne called clenziderm M.D., This three step system has almost completely cleared up my son's skin (I don't use the system as I just need help for some individual spots) his skin looks great (granted I was finally able to get him to go on a oral antibiotic).This new Obagi line- in my opinion is better then Proactive, not as drying, and very easy to use- and it works.
For back problems, due to cost and ease we have found something very simple works- hand sanitizer! An idea from my mom and works very well on large areas that are not as sensitive as the face.
I absolutely love this product PeterThomasRoth- AHA/BHA Acne Clearing Gel- this is terrific, a little rub on your spot areas, is clear (unlike the proactive white mask) and voila- pimple be gone! It does not seem to extra drying and is good for my sensitive, mature skin.
That seems to be it for the control of those pesky little blemishes we still get (thanks son for letting me sample your products).... next I will chat about some of the fine skin care products for mature, sensitive, thin skin.
Have a great day, and enjoy the wonderful stage of life you are now in!
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Obagi
The Obagi Skin Health Restoration System helps to correct surface discoloration, blemishes, and stimulate cell renewal to bring back the glow and softness of healthy, younger-looking skin.
You may be an ideal candidate for Obagi if you want to reduce the effects of sun damage and are looking for a long-term skin care system.
Patient before and after Obagi Blue Peel and Skin Health Restoration System.
How it works: After an Obagi Blue Peel, keratinocytes and melanocytes rush to cover the areas of treatment. New collagen production in the dermis quickly follows. The procedure, in essence, stimulates your skin and causes it to renew itself.
The Obagi Skin Health Restoration System uses a medically prescribed tretinoin medication in combination with hydroquinone, alpha hydroxy acids, and phytic acid products. This careful combination helps make the skin healthier and addresses dysfunctional skin conditions such as acne, hyperpigmentation, and photoaging.
Treatment: Dr. Jang will prescribe an at-home skincare protocol specific for you, which may also include the Obagi Blue Peel — a light to medium chemical peel that will help further restore your skin's clarity and tightness. Recovery: -->
Results: After six weeks (one skin cycle) new, healthy cells emerge to the surface. The normal barrier function of your skin is restored making your skin less sensitive and better able to hydrate properly.
Further information online: Obagi - www.obagi.com

fabulous woman over 40

2008-05-17T17:01:00.000-07:00

Of course, such disregard for fashion's forces of conservatism is what makes Roitfeld's work so exciting. Her arrival at French Vogue in 2001 brought a youthful energy to an ageing institution which, she readily admits, 'hadn't been so good' since the mid-Eighties. At that time, Paris was undergoing a wholehearted rejuvenation, with a generation of designers barely into their thirties being appointed as head designers of its most famous fashion houses: Nicolas Ghesquiere at Balenciaga, Hedi Slimane at Dior Homme, Phoebe Philo at Chloe. Roitfeld's appointment at Vogue seemed to anoint the arrival of this new generation. And while her youthful irreverence may have ruffled a few fusty feathers, it has revived the magazine's fortunes: in 2005, advertising revenue leapt 60 per cent, making it the best year for ad sales in two decades. 'I make big errors,' she says modestly, 'and I may be a bit punk sometimes, but I try to make it exciting for the reader. And the readership figure goes up. It will never be 'uge - because if it is 'uge it will be a different sort of magazine, too popular. So I cannot be too big. But we keep going up bit by bit ... the boss is happy.'
Another advantage was that she could focus on bringing up her children, while she watched overworked colleagues guiltily juggling motherhood and career-maintenance. 'I only start to work really hard when they grow up. Now I work every day, Saturday, Sunday - but the children are big, they study far away.'
Sunday February 25, 2007
The Observer
Yasmin Yusuf agrees that there's a dearth of ideas for women who are too old for clubbing but too young to make their own chutney: 'There isn't anything really slick and sexy for this market yet. It's such an opportunity. What is available is generally expensive - it's all about beautiful cut, something to give confidence, and that comes at a price. The middle-market retailers should be looking at this: the 35-plus group aren't going to stop loving fashion just because they've had another birthday.'
This year for the first time, women over 40 will make up more than 50 per cent of the UK female population. Many have money. Most have perfectly adequate bodies, thanks to a
Mimi Spencer is a columnist for You magazine

paris vogue is yes, rather brilliant and highly charged, but also rather arrogant.
american vogue is becoming far too unoffensive and bland.
british vogue however manages to please everone by demonstrating young london edge, whilst maintaining its english aristo classique.
not to mention articles with some real substance, which paris and american lack.
I would, however, not mind seeing someone replace alexandra shulman, she is slightly too sloaney for my liking.
(above from a blog on fashion

2008-05-13T15:01:00.000-07:00

This is going to be such fun! I am so tired and frustrated with people- yes even fabulous women over 40 not getting it! I had a few years ago- a lovely woman in her 50's tell me- as I was struggling with early on-set menopause and the wonderful effects "Get used to it. You will gain weight, get tired it is getting old."
AUGHHH! Come on- we are more wonderful, creative, sexy and fabulous then ever before and that is the message I want to spread!
I wish for all of us over 40 to embrace this wonderful creative time of life- be sexy, fabulous, creative, interesting and to join forces share ideas, foibles, fun and energy.
Raine

Instant Facelift- Wax the brows

2007-11-22T10:42:00.000-08:00

All the chats about eyebrows does nothing to actually enforce the effect of perfectly groomed brows. For many years I thought -"How silly- I can tweeze". Finally I went in to see how the pros do this - and voila- my mom kepty asking me what I had done - I felt so polished- so finished and it did takes years off my look.Testing this out -I made a few visits to different saloons and discovered what Oprah knows- this is an art. You need to search out an artist in brows to have a perfect look....then perhaps a touch of filler since as we age our brows do thin.For the minor charge of 25 every month or so- this is an easy and inexpensive way to update and take years off your look!Go for it- my favorite- Linda from Skin Enhancement Centre in Edmonton- phone 413-4222. She has even had folks in New York stop a client on the street to ask where the lady got her brows done.
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