How to act like a lady and think like a man

Interesting book- I think I might buy this.
However- the advice this man gives is the same advice I believe in-- and what I learned from my grandmother- not that I always followed it!
The one great line she told me years ago was
I was 14 and wanted to ask this cute new guy out. Hey, I was a new-age girl- I was equal- I could do what-ever men did!
My grandmother got wind of my scheme and told me to go ahead if I wanted- but if I wanted to have the 'power' why would I give it away?
I responded with 'I am equal, I am a girl I can do what men do."
She retorted that I was right--- "But.......who-ever has the power to say 'No'... is the one with the true power.
(Hence- if I asked and he said No- he was the one with the power--- if I was asked and I said No- I am the one with the power.
A lesson I have never forgot-- you can create a situation where the gentleman will want to ask you out---- draw him in if you will- yes-- life is a tad of a game- get over it! Play coy- flirt- become the woman he would want---- then you have the power!
Say Yes---- to a date- coffee-- not sex-- of course if you really want to see him again!
More on that tomorrow---

depression over 40

hmmmm.... this is going to be a rather blunt and honest blog-- about goals, aspirations, losing them in the reality of teenagers, failed marriages and the fog hauling in dementia to cover our elders.
Through living through life we tend to get tired, drink too much wine, and fail to 'get up and go' to finish our life dreams..... they seem like the lighthouse on the far away shore over the rough water and almost hidden through the dense fog of life.
I, like many of you, have struggled with the fog days and while the struggle is hard and to admit the weakening of our spirits it is a struggle that is indeed even more important as we do fade.
Depression- what an ugly word- and I am not talking about the lack of money currently in circulation in the world.
Finally, after years of not even realizing I had indeed fallen down a deep well of depression, "it is just stress, it is meno-pause, it is stress' I finally had to realize the life I was living was indeed in a fog.
Going home after work just to go to bed-lying on the couch watching more TMZ and another CSI re-run, every excuse not to workout, go-out, lots of time to run and get more wine and a movie to hibernate in the safe confines of my basement.....
Ladies, this is not living
Hiding from work, responsibilities-- not interested in your former loves of loves- what ever hobby (or man) that may be......
If you are finding the season, the weather, the financial market, your marriage or singledom is somehow just not working- please do not be as stubborn as I was- go to the doctor and he has the best happy pills in the world!
Yahoo-- I see some painting, writing, finally getting those taxes done (actually dealing with some life issues that need to be dealt with and not piled under the already very lumpy rug).
Happy pills are for me!

WOW- get aload of those emeralds!

Angelina - I know is not 40 yet- but she is in training and will be a stunner when she gets here. She is soooo coool ( some folks prefer the pouty- poor little me Jennifer- but for me the strong self-assured Angelina is much sexier!) She knows how to dress- never do her clothes outshine her but rather enhance her beauty--- and those emeralds!

Not as splashy as huge diamonds but much more elegant- would love to know how much!

Men and women sin in different ways

Men and women sin in different ways
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CARLY WEEKS
From Thursday's Globe and Mail
February 19, 2009 at 9:10 AM EST
Men who drool over the Victoria's Secret catalogue may be risking more than a glare from their main squeeze - they may earn a one-way ticket to hell. But at least they'll be in the company of women who boast about their shoes.
According to The Times of London, a recent survey reported in the Vatican newspaper reveals that while Catholic men and women both sin, they do so in very different ways. For men, lust, gluttony and sloth are the offences most often committed. For women, it's pride, followed by envy and anger.
The analysis of church confessions, conducted by a Jesuit priest, revealed telling gender differences and has created a sensation in Britain, where it was widely reported yesterday.
After lust, gluttony and slothfulness, men are most likely to commit sins of anger, pride, envy and avarice. For women, pride, envy and anger are followed up by lust, gluttony and slothfulness.
Media reports say the analysis was conducted by Roberto Busa, and was reported after Monsignor Wojciech Giertych, personal theologian to Pope Benedict XVI and the papal household, attested to the gender differences in the Vatican newspaper L'Osservatore Romano.
A spokesperson for the Canadian Conference of Catholic Bishops declined comment, saying the assembly is aware of the media reports but has not yet read the su

Moms and over 40

Today, while I was making beef soup and stew to pack in my son's lunch for the coming week or so I had time to contemplate life.
We rush around so much to make the money, make something of ourselves, smart, glamorous successful and then when tough times coming falling around our heads we feel like we have failed.
Making the lunches had me thinking how terrific my life is, grateful to have my son and the ability in this crazy world to save grocery money by making these things homemade. The lunches will have extra love in them- even if they are simple comfort peasant fare.
Life does show us what is important and today I am filled with the most love and sense of accomplishment that I have felt in years
Next week it will hamburger soup, hamburger stew and maybe a meatloaf!
Simple food filled with love and of all the titles I have held- Mom is the best!

Definition of a Cougar

What is a Real Cougar? She is style, she is grace, she is smart, she is a leader. She has worked hard, learned a lot and excelled at whatever she chose to do. She doesn’t ever have to apologize for being successful – she has earned her stripes.

“Real Cougars” are business women, and they are wives and mothers. A “Real Cougar” is not defined by a band on her finger, it’s her attitude about life. She is a woman who is constantly looking for new opportunities and knows how to get what she wants. Sometimes things don’t work out exactly as she plans, but she grows from each and every experience.

In folklore a cougar quietly take control of a situation. Sometimes this can lead to conflict with others over territory. A cougar is associated with leadership and teaches decisiveness in the use of personal power.

True leadership through gentle assertiveness is what cougar teaches those with this totem. Cougar people are often very sure of themselves, not taking any unnecessary steps or exerting any extra energy beyond what is required of them to achieve their goal. Most cougars learn by trial and error, which strengthens them and hones their skills.

A cougar will leap at opportunities. They take control of their lives and circumstances most effectively.

5 Components of a Real Cougar

Health & Wellness:

A Real Cougar Cougar knows that feeling good is the most important thing. Her body is changing each decade. It's her responsibility to keep it running at full capacity.

Beauty:

A Real Cougar doesn’t want to look 25. However she understands the importance of looking sexy and fabulous for the age she happens to be.

Relationships:

A Real Cougar knows that relationships are difficult to maintain. What’s interesting about being over 40 is your priorities change. Now it’s time to focus in on what you really want and stop pleasing everyone else.

Financial Freedom:

A Real Cougar knows the importance of being financially independent. Without that you never feel completely secure.

Mindset:

A Real Cougar knows how important it is to have a mindset that's programmed for success. Knowing how to tap into her spirit and her intuition is essential.

Aging is inevitable – how you age is always your choice!

Ellen Barkin- over 40 and fabulous

Ellen Barkin continues to bite back at former husband Ronald Perelman.
Ellen's spokesman confirmed that she has signed on to do an HBO pilot about a woman who struggles to find her bearings after a high-profile divorce from a wealthy businessman. Obviously, the material’s right up Barkin’s alley — Perelman famously tossed her from their luxury apartment after handing her divorce papers in 2006. Barkin ended up getting $60 million from the billionaire, and raked in about another $20 million when she auctioned off jewels given to her by the mogul.
One evening when Barkin accidently bumped into Perelman with Anna Chapman, his new girlfriend, at a New York restaurant, she threw a glass of water in his face and hissed at Chapman: "I feel sorry for you having to (bleep) him tonight."
Shauna Cross, the woman who's writing the pilot script, describes her vision: "You have this character in her early 50s whose life explodes suddenly. Her nerve and life experience allows her to tell the world to go screw itself, and they love her for it."
Welcome to the world of Real Cougars over 40!

Cougars- in the best of ways!

ah I want to find the blog link for this!