YIKES Cymbalta

Yikes!
I was so happy telling you about these 'happy pills' for going through the meno-pause and the feeling sometimes of depression-- well do not take cymbalta!
I had the worst case of chapped lips-extending all around my mouth about 1 inch- you know when you have to do the 'chapstick' thing and if the stuff was pink you would look like one of those crazy clown women? yup that was me!
Incredible pain in my abdomen for months now-severe constipation, complete lack of appetite, yet all the while gaining so much weight I stopped weighing myself, almost complete liver shut-down, headaches, pain the back of my eyeballs, weird dreams (the kind that only truly sick psychos should ever have) fall asleep in 5 minutes but can only sleep 4 hours a night, tired, no ambition!
BUT- dummy me- thinking the side effects would go away I stayed on them- ah and night sweats- but not as bad as the menopausal ones where you think you are peeing from your arm pits in the middle of the night (I know ughhhh!)..... so now 3 days after not taking any of that stuff and doing some research - it appears I was on the heroin/crack of anti-depressants.....supposed to be bad withdrawal.
So far I have not had a bad withdrawal, already feeling better, slept last night for 7 hours, starting to not have pain in my tummy, no nausea, actually very hungry yesterday, lips are already healing.......
BUT-- I will let you know if I lose it and turn into 'uber-bitch' in the next little while!
In the meantime if you are on this drug- please check it out- please ask your doctor and if not on it please truly consider before you take it---
Not really like the two sexy middle-aged folks in the TV commercials- I actually thought Cymbalta was for penile erection problems-- not for the curing the crazies!

Post post menopause

Ahh,, chatting at a recent 50th birthday party with an almost 50 post-menopausal woman was enlightening.
There she was thin, great skin, calm and looking well rested!
The pure envy I felt was awful!
Chatting shortly later - "What do you do for that great skin, OMG look how thin you are!"
She was very sweet- explaining she will be 50 this summer, and has gone through the 'change'.
She gave me encouragement- it took about 3 years, yes she did gain weight, sometimes it seemed like she gained 5 pounds a day. She did not have severe hot flashes, or really bad night sweats! Lucky girl!
But what she did point out that nobody else has was the bloating! I thought something was wrong with my guts- she was the first person to discuss that constant bloated feeling~! aahah-- and it goes away too, the weight stabilized and you might even find you lose some after the menopause has ended!
There is a light at the end of the tunnel!
Yiphee- only another 3 or 4 years!

oh men- lovely men!

What is it that men just do not seem to get as we age?
When we were young, we sat by the phone waiting for them to call.
The 'boys' were out being boys- and called you when they thought of it--
Now, the boys will not stop calling- 2-3 times a day!
Boys, us girls are not sitting around waiting for you to call-= we are busy!
We are out being busy.
Your constant calling is not flattering- it is - well it makes you seem desperate, or worse than that clingy, freakish, scary, controlling.
Men, relax we are over 40 do not try to control what she does, keep tabs on her, make snide comments if she is on the phone when you call, or out with some else for dinner.......
Trust me this is not high-school and you play those games with her - she will dump your ass pronto!
Remember the clingy, little girl in high school- she made you crazy and you had to get out!
Do not be that kind of man- you are trying to entice her in- not make sure she runs screaming out!